Our Digital Lifestyles: The Sharing Compulsion

Just read these two posts:

This So-Called Digital Life: Re-Evaluating the Value of Social Media by Brian Solis

Your Digital Lifestyle – Is It Time to Redefine Value? by Pam Moore



The top points:

“We must keep our goals and objectives as a solid foundation to determine how and where we invest our time both on and offline. This includes business goals and life goals. Our digital life is a journey, not a destination.

WHY do you do what you do? Do you need to revisit how you spend your time online? Is it providing value to your business and your life? Or are you getting distracted by vanity metrics, following competition or increasing influence scores? Are you seeking validation in the form of likes, tweets, retweets, repins, +1 ‘s and the list goes on?

When I feel that I am spinning into a digital crazy cyclone cycle, I turn off. I take a weekend, afternoon or day to reconnect in a big way with my family, friends and myself.”


I absolutely agree with Anil Dash that we should “rethink value to re-train ourselves in how we use and appreciate social media.”

Some days I feel way way WAY too caught up in my digital life. It is a digital crazy zone. WHY do we get so caught up in vanity metrics? WHY do we feel compelled to enjoy every single minute of our lives?

From Brian Solis: Today’s value system in social engagement:

1) Vision (I learn something, I’m inspired);
2) Validation (I’m accepted or justified);
3) Vindication (I’m right, cleared);
4) Vulnerability (I’m open); and
5) Vanity (Not egotism, but accidental narcissism. I’m important)


I’m alarmed at the things I see on Facebook and Twitter that people share. Oversharing happens on a daily basis.  I just have a few questions…


Just over the past week, couples posted photos of their brand new babies only a few hours after they were born. Why did they feel the need to post pictures SO so soon? Why not wait and enjoy it? I understand people want updates, but do you need to post 20 pictures as soon as it’s born? Why not post a simple update and say you’ll post photos later? Why not text or call who really matters instead of sharing to 500+ people who aren’t really invested? (I don’t have children so I don’t actually know what this is like, but I believe I would wait)

Same goes for engagements and marriages. Do you need to post that you JUST got engaged an hour after it happend? Why not wait and savor the moment?

I really admired my friend Emily Diab for doing this. She and her fiance waited a week to post about their engagement so they could enjoy and share the time with family and friends first. In my opinion, she did it right. What is the rush to share? (I will absolutely wait a while)

Same goes for honeymoons, vacations, parties, etc. Why do we feel the need to update from these occasions when you’re supposed to be enjoying them with the person you JUST married or with friends and family while you’re supposed to be AWAY?

Why can’t we live in the moment instead of sharing every single moment now?


It’s something I’m continually working on. I share a lot of *stuff* too, but I’ve been taking a break from social on week nights and on weekends. I don’t want to be an “accidental narcissist  as Brian Solis says. I want to redefine value and time for my own social media. I encourage everyone to do the same!

Be with actual people instead of sharing online with other people.

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