I have three potential answers when my wife asks me how my day was: Good, fine or sucked. Unless unordinary circumstances apply, none of those answers are followed up with supporting detail. No need to relive my hard days work. I was there. I know what happened. This time saver is more mental than anything. Knowing I am 100% present when I walk through my front door means I can devote my energy to other things, like being a good husband and stuff.
That really hit me. I complain, brag, elaborate, etc. on my day all the time, but it’s not really necessary. I’m sure Jarrett isn’t always interested in everything (just the truth!) I’m doing so there’s really no need to keep discussing it. Matt is right when he said there’s no need to relive hard days at work. When you walk out the door, let it go.
I get to work at about 8:15 every morning (about an hour or more before everyone else does) so I can leave right at 5 p.m. to start my long journey of an hour and a half home. It’s really important to me to maximize my hours at work so I don’t have to stay late all the time. I value my time at home with my boyfriend and Lanie (my #PRdog) very much.
It’s not that I’m not willing to work longer hours, but why do that when I can get my work done during my hours? This is just my experience.
I also disconnect on the weekend as much as possible. Ariana Huffington said, “If we cannot disconnect, we cannot lead.” She, as well as Steve Jobs and Bill Gates, are known to disconnect for a while to come back refreshed.
At The Huffington Post, no one is expected to answer email after hours or over the weekend. “Ninety nine percent of the time it’s not urgent and to create a culture where you are constantly plugged in and expected to be always-on is to create a culture of a burnout,” said Huffington. “Creating the culture of burnout is opposite to creating a culture of sustainable creativity. This is something that needs to be taught in business schools. This mentality needs to be introduced as a leadership and performance-enhancing tool.”
Don’t burn yourself out and don’t stress yourself out. I think that’s one of the hardest lessons for new professionals to learn since we, typically, put in more hours and do more of the “grunt work.”
One last thing: “We walk through life feeling like we are running out of time. It’s a terrible way to live your life,” says Arianna Huffington.
Take time to SLOW DOWN. That’s one thing about living in New York, people just have to go go go go go go go. They can’t even wait a few seconds to walk or can’t wait to push the next person out of the way to get on the subway. Everyone just needs to calm down. A few seconds isn’t going to wreck your day. Take more time to breathe and relax.
I would love to hear from you: How is your work / life integration? What are your tips for balancing the two?