The sincerest form of flattery I can think of is when other people spend a lot of time focusing on you... good and bad. When other people feel the need to spend a lot of time on you and trying to tear you down or make you look bad, consider it flattery. There's a reason they are working so hard against you. When people spend a lot of time talking to you, complimenting you and researching you, consider that flattery as well!
Where's all this coming from?
Recently, I was involved in a small "crisis" at my university where, as one of five Facebook administrators for our university social media, I was blamed for deleting posts and "censoring" students when that wasn't the case at all. People will make claims against you that are not true. As they found out, it wasn't even me who deleted the posts and it actually wasn't me responding either; it was my boss!
After a few things played out, I learned a lot about this situation and learned a lot through this situation. I got to create an awesome blog for our SGA, something we had been talking about for ages, and I got more experience in dealing with negativity on social media!
Needless to say, even though this small situation may have started out seemingly bad, I got a lot of experience from it and added a brand new website to my portfolio. I also got to meet with top university officials, network more on our university and even made some new friends from the situation! A lot of good came out of this for me!
Taylor Swift has a lot of people who fight against her and who try to bring her down... and she rises above. This picture is from one of her performances last year in DC when she wrote on her arm: " “I guess to build yourself up so high, you had to take her and break her down” from Keith Urban. What a true statement!
What's the lesson?
Even the bad situations reap some great benefits sometimes! While people may try to write blog posts about me and directed at me, it actually doesn't bother me anymore! It's something I can laugh about now... and I do!
While I'm writing this, I'm on the phone with a close friend and she says, "Well aren't you spending time writing about them here when they don't deserve it?" Well somewhat. This is more of a positive post on what came out of the situation and what I learned from it.
Few quotes on "enemies" and "haters":
- "You have enemies? Good, that means you stood up for something." - Eminem
- "Haters only hate the things that they can't get and the people they can't be."
- "People cannot actually hurt you or affect you, unless you let them."
When you're involved in something, it usually eventually goes away and fades out on its on. There might be someone who might not want to let something go for a while, so let them hold on. Just because they are wasting their time trying to tear you down, doesn't mean you need to spend your time thinking about them or having anything to do with them.
Don't be that person in 5... 10.. 20 years who is still holding on to something that should have been let go a week after it happened. Bitterness doesn't make for a pretty future!
People are always going to try to tear you down and bring you down... so don't let them and continue to build yourself up :]
Good luck to everyone in these types of situations!